This is not tolerated
There had been several posts recently about disgusting sexist idiotic behavior on PerlMonks. Most people know my opinion on these issues very well, but I don't think that's good enough. I think we need to actually bring it up and discuss it. I want to thank all the people who wrote about it and specifically Joe McMahon who both spoke of it on blogs.perl.org and on Perlmonks here. No, this is not to be taken lightly. And no, I will not shut up about this. And yes, my post is probably gonna be long. I'm sorry, but I need to put it out there.
First, how I feel about it: It's sexist, it's creepy, it's horrible. If such behavior is accepted in PerlMonks, I would understand Joe if he were to leave over this. Why? Because we are our community, and by "we" I'm including women as well. By allowing such behavior, we are separating ourselves from a broad "we" to a limited "us" (males) vs. "them" (females, and those who "can't take a joke"). You're basically drawing a line saying "sorry, you girls (and people who don't get how hilarious boob jokes are) are excluded from our community". You do not live in your own little bubble with your friends who chuckle at the word "boob" in the calculator. You're in a community with other people (who are apparently more sensitive, considerate, sexually mature, and mentally developed than you) who do not deserve to be ostracized because of you.
Cut it out with the socially inept bullshit: many guys (read: geeks) are socially inept. Surprise, women also. The fact that it's hard for you to understand people in a social capacity does not exclude you from A. understanding that boob jokes are disgustingly sexist and objectify women, and B. being considerate enough to actually pause and say "ya know what? I honestly didn't mean to hurt anyone. I apologize." Don't give me this "we don't know how to talk to girls" bullshit. I don't know how to talk to girls either. This doesn't exclude me from basic common understanding of both hurting someone or at least at the very least accepting responsibility when I hurt someone, instead of a weak cop-out.
"You just can't take a joke": it's not about good humor vs. bad humor. If you know me in person, you know I have a horrible sense of humor in the realm of political correctness. You know what's the difference? I don't consider my humor a reflection of society. My off-color humor is never to reflect how I think of society and people. That joke actually said that big-breasted women are better. Can you objectify and demean anyone more than that? Do you actually see no problem with that?
So I can't make sexual jokes now?: You might. However, You are part of a community with people you do not necessarily know, and you should understand the forum you're engaged in. This means that even sexual jokes that are not demeaning or hurt feelings might ostracize some people. You need to be *gasp* considerate of others. Perhaps after the meeting, when you all go out to the pub, you could tell some of these jokes and people (including the women) will laugh with you. Perhaps not. If not, you'll know that you'll have to save these jokes for later.
Is sex a forbidden topic? Sex is not a forbidden topic. Adults actually talk about sex frequently, when they feel it's fitting and when they feel comfortable. Sexualizing software, demeaning women to a set of breasts and prioritizing their importance by size, that's not "talking about sex". That's disgusting behavior.
Remember, we compose who our community is, and "we" includes more people than you'd probably imagine. It includes different races, different colors, different creeds (or the lack thereof), different genders (or the lack thereof) and even different types of hairdos (or, again, the lack thereof). It's not a bunch of people who make it difficult for the community to joke about stupid stuff, it's the community itself complaining. And what this community is telling you, and is telling us, is that it will not accept such behavior. I'm thankful that this is my community.
UPDATE: Of course I made a typo there. Fixed.